I almost quit blogging this week.
My email quit working.
The baby was teething.
My eStore started working sometimes, but not always.
The laundry was piling up.
My blog protection failed and my site got attacked with 180,000 spam comments. My web host turned my site off to stop the attack and said each comment would have to be deleted one at a time before my site could be turned on again. I was facing hours and hours and hours of hitting the delete button.
The whole family got sick.
I have one reader who occasionally sends me hate mail. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me when I have so many wonderful readers, but the “Here’s-everything-that’s-wrong-with-you” emails suck the life out of me. I got another one of those recently and was having trouble putting it into the proper perspective. It’s just one person’s opinion and it’s not even true.
With all that going on, it just felt like too much. I just wanted to turn my computer off and walk away.
I’ve always tried to make my blog a space where I focus on the happy and positive. So why am I telling you all this?
#1. Bloggers Are Real People
It’s easy to read someone’s blog and think their life is perfect. It’s easy to read someone’s blog and think, “That person has it all together. Look at all the things they do! I’ll never measure up.”
I’ll never forget the time I met a lady who later became a dear friend of mine. We met through one of those online Facebook Garage Sale sites so she had the chance to look at my blog before she actually met me in person. She said to me later, “I looked at your website and thought, “Wow, this lady really has it all together. She runs a farm, she blogs, she homeschools, she has 4 kids, she’s written an ebook…” and then I met you and I realized, “OOOOHHHHHH.”
I’m not quite sure what that “OOOOHHHHHH” meant. I think it meant, “Oh, AlinaJoy. You’re a regular Mama with a regular house and a regular life, and regular high points and low points just like me!”
Don’t ever let my blog make you think that my life is perfect. I strive to be transparent, but not everything that happens in our home is mine to share. And not everything that happens in our life is worth sharing.
Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
If it doesn’t fall into those categories I consider it not worth my time to write or your time to read. Just because it doesn’t make it onto my blog doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.
#2. A Little Encouragement Goes A Long, Long Way
It felt like the universe was bombarding me with reasons to not blog any more. And yet the idea of shutting my blog down and walking away made me truly sad. Then, in the middle of all that, I got a quick little simple email. It was in response to my Kill-A-Cold Sandwich and it just said:
Very good idea… Loved your garlic sandwich! Will try it this week for enjoyment ~ don’t need a cold to eat!
Thanks for all you share!
Thanks for all you share. Five simple little words, but they came at exactly the right moment. They made me remember why I do what I do and they made me smile.
Every time we open our mouths we have a choice to make. Our words can either tear down or build up. It’s not harder to speak words of encouragement than words of discouragement. It’s simply a matter of choosing words that build up and bless rather than tear down and destroy. This week I was the recipient of words that bless and I am so grateful.
So my challenge to you, as we head into the weekend is to go out of your way to use words that bless and encourage. Seek out to encourage one person on purpose. Then come back here and tell me in the comments how it went.
Thanks for being one of my readers. You bless me.